How to Get Comfortable with Closing Your Inbox

How to Get Comfortable with Closing Your Inbox

One of the things that I teach when I’m teaching people how to simplify their inbox is that you shouldn’t leave your inbox open all day. I get so much resistance to this. Everybody thinks that their inbox should be open because they need to be able to access things inside of it or answer emails as they come in. There’s just general resistance to shutting that email app or the browser window and not leaving it open.  And I get it; we’re conditioned to put other people’s needs above our own and in business, that means being available and responsive 24/7. But that’s killing our attention spans and productivity.  It costs us hours every day.

There are a couple of things you can do to get more comfortable with the idea of shutting your inbox for hours at a time. 

Set Expectations

The first thing that you can do is set the expectations of the people who email you the most. 

In the grand scheme of things, you’re probably setting higher expectations on yourself than anyone else does. Your inbox shouldn’t be an instant messaging service, and unless your contract states otherwise, replies within 1 or 2 business days are perfectly reasonable under most circumstances. The only reason anyone expects a faster reply is because you’ve conditioned them to expect it by always replying within a couple of hours. 

For people who are already in your inbox, try waiting an hour or two to reply and then slowly lengthen it out to four or five hours. Most likely, they won’t even notice the shift.  If anyone does comment on it, you can simply let them know that they should expect a reply within 24 hours.  Always set the expectation longer than you plan to check to give yourself some breathing room. 

For new clients, establish that expectation right up front in your welcome packet.  If needed for your industry, you can always create a guideline for urgent communication either through another channel or adding “URGENT” to the subject line.

You can also use your email signature or an autoresponder to help set those expectations.

Reduce the Flow

The second thing that you can do to get more comfortable with shutting your inbox is reducing the flow of what’s coming in.  Second to “but what if someone needs me” is the complaint that if they wait a few hours, the number of emails will be overwhelming to deal with all at once and take too long. 

There are two points I want to make here.  The first is that batching is valuable.  When you handle emails as they come in, they all seem important.  When you process emails in a batch, you see them in contrast to each other, and it’s easier to prioritize, which in turn makes you more efficient.   The second is that if it’s piling up that quickly, you have some unsubscribing to do.


The most straightforward place to reduce the flow is notification emails.  If you are getting the notification in another more appropriate location, you don’t need the email, too.  These days email notifications are almost always redundant.  If it’s an email notification that a payment was processed, we probably got a push notification from Stripe as well as a notification from our cart platform or CRM.  Disable all but the one that makes the most sense for you.  If it’s a social media notification, we already got it in the appropriate app, where we can do something with it, so those can go, too.  And do we need notifications for every new email subscriber or follower on Medium?  Nope.   And if you can’t disable them, set a filter to mark as read and archive them automatically. 


There are three types of newsletters in our inboxes.  There are the ones we actually read, the ones we think we’ll read and feel guilty about when we don’t get to them, and then ones we just delete.  The first ones are keepers, the second ones you need to consider why you aren’t reading them, and then the rest need to hit the unsubscribe button.  Unsubscribing is a friendly gesture—you’re helping their open rates!  And I highly recommend creating a filter for newsletters so that you can tuck them away and read them when you have extra time versus letting them take up space in your inbox. 


We all get these, we bought something or use a service, and it landed us on their marketing email list, as well.  We don’t immediately unsubscribe because we still need some communications from these companies, but most of what they send is clutter that goes straight to trash when we deal with our inbox.  Thankfully, these days segmenting is more popular, and you can adjust your email settings with these companies so that you are off their marketing lists but still receive relevant transactional emails.  Take a few minutes and explore your email preferences and see what you can get rid of.

Another way you can reduce the flow is by diverting communications to other tools and apps.  Diverting communications not only reduces the flow of emails that you have to deal with but can help keep conversations in context.  Have your assistant or business associate communicate primarily through a project management tool or platform like Slack.  And the same for clients.  Keeping communications where the projects are happening means less reason to open your inbox through the day and get distracted by everything that’s come in.  

And for the love of everything, keep your personal and business emails separate.  Personal email can go way longer without being checked and is often much more distracting.  

Trade Notifications for a Timer

The third way that you can get more comfortable with closing your inbox is to stop getting the notifications. And I know that sounds counterintuitive

because if your inbox is closed, you feel like you need the notifications to rely on, so you don’t miss anything important. But hear me out.

Notifications open loops in your brain that distract you from the work at hand, even if you don’t open them.  Just knowing that something came in and you don’t know what it is, divides your focus.  And it’s worse if you saw the sender or subject line, because then your brain starts trying to fill in the blanks, and it’s usually pessimistic. 

But FOMO is real, I know.  And if you don’t have notifications turned on, you’ll feel the need to open your inbox every 10 seconds to see if anything is there.  It’s a double-edged sword.  

And that’s where the timer comes in.

A timer means that your brain can rest and focus on the task at hand.  When the timer goes off, you’ll open your email and deal with anything.  Knowing that there is a time set aside for that will give your brain a break from thinking about it.  It closes the loop. 

Start Small

In the beginning, you may need to set that timer for a small amount of time, maybe just 15-30 minutes.  And then work your way up as you get more comfortable with not seeing those notifications and emails. 

As you get used to shutting your inbox and your brain gets more comfortable with the idea that it can relax and focus, you’ll find that you’re getting more done in less time because your attention isn’t divided and fractured.  And you’ll probably notice that your clients weren’t expecting immediate responses like you always believed. 

You’ll be more productive without sacrificing your professionalism and maybe even have time to read those newsletters you filed away. 

If you’re interested in going deeper on this topic and learning how to simplify your inbox, join my live training, the Simplified Inbox Blueprint, on July 22nd at 6 pm Central. Click here for more information.

The Inbox: A Cornerstone of Entrepreneurial Anxiety

The Inbox: A Cornerstone of Entrepreneurial Anxiety

By definition, anxiety is apprehensive uneasiness or nervousness, usually over an impending or anticipated ill.  

Anxiety is essentially the fear of unmet expectations. We are afraid we won’t meet an expectation, and something ill will come of it.

Often, those expectations are of our own making. We expect an event to go poorly, or we’re expecting a specific outcome. If we expect something to go well, there’s no anxiety. 

So when it comes to entrepreneurial anxiety, we need to focus on reframing expectations-both ours and others’.

Entrepreneurial Anxiety

The other day I posted something on social media that said, “the inbox is the cornerstone of entrepreneurial anxiety.” As expected, there were a lot of people in agreement with that statement. The most common response was, “Yes, so I avoid it!”

I found the two-fold nature of this anxiety to be fascinating.

You see, most entrepreneurs tie the anxiety directly to their inbox. It’s the tool/space itself that makes them feel anxious. It’s an onslaught of requests, demands, promotions, and information, and we’re often dealing with it in a cluttered and disorganized jumble. Just the thought of even looking at it triggers an expectation of overwhelm, which, in turn, creates anxiety.

The expectation that dealing with it will be overwhelming is just the first layer.

Then we have to deal with the fact that beneath that general expectation we have created for ourselves, lies a list of expectations from the senders of each message.

And the longer we avoid dealing with the inbox out of the original anxiety, the scarier the expectations hidden inside of those individual messages get. 

Which makes the idea of going through the inbox even more overwhelming, which means we put it off more, which compounds the expectations of those waiting in our inbox, which…you see where I’m going with this?

Inbox Avoidance vs Obsession

Our inbox is the place where everyone else’s expectations land. When we swing to either side of the spectrum, we create a new layer of expectation for ourselves on top of those individual expectations.  

On the one end, we have the avoiders–they avoid the inbox until there’s an apparent dumpster fire, and then scramble to put it out. And in doing so, they usually discover other urgent or essential things that fell through the cracks, compounding the overwhelm and anxiety they’re feeling.

On the other end of the spectrum, we have the obsessed–their inbox runs their life. It’s open all of the time, and they cannot stand to see that little red bubble with a number. They are no more productive than avoiders because they are continually putting out the fires as they come up, leaving no time or focus for other important things. Their anxiety comes from the idea of not meeting other people’s expectations fast enough, as well as repeatedly failing their own expectations for projects they never make time to complete.

Both ends of the spectrum bring their distinctive flavor of anxiety when we talk about managing an inbox.

Reframing Expectations

The unfortunate reality is that email is as unavoidable as death and taxes. We’re going to have to deal with it at some point. It’s a part of pretty much everyone’s lives, yet we’re never really taught how to manage it effectively.  

And to make things worse, we’re now inundated with multiple inboxes. There are inboxes on nearly every social media platform, as well as school, work, and personal emails. And then there’s the inbox of project management apps and platforms like Slack. It’s no wonder we feel overwhelmed.

At any given time, we are bombarded with other people’s expectations. They show up in text messages, voice mails, DMs, and emails. With the increase in technology, we’ve opened ourselves up to being at the mercy of other people’s expectations 24/7.

It’s no wonder that anxiety and overwhelm are the status quo for any of us, but especially entrepreneurs. 

The good news is that it’s up to us to begin opting out and reframing those expectations. We can revoke that access to ourselves at any time. We can set boundaries and question which expectations we allow ourselves to buy into. We can also control when and how people communicate their expectations to us and when and how we respond. 

And the simplest places to start with that are our inbox and our mobile notifications. Start by unsubscribing to promotional newsletters (expectation to buy) and social media notifications (expectation to engage instantly). Then begin setting expectations on when and how you will reply. My favorite is an autoresponder in my Facebook messages directing people to email me instead. One inbox down, 183 more to go. 

If you’re interested in going deeper on this topic and learning how to simplify your inbox, join my live training, the Simplified Inbox Blueprint, on July 22nd at 6 pm Central. Click here for more information.

Inbox Hacks & Workflows

Inbox Hacks & Workflows

There’s no replacement for having a solid routine when it comes to managing the myriad of communications that make up our day. But when you’re drowning under the constant barrage of emails and notifications, it can be hard to establish one. Use these quick inbox hacks to triage your inbox and create some breathing room.

I always start with the inbox because it’s usually the cornerstone of entrepreneurial anxiety. It’s the main place where other people’s expectations come knocking.  And it’s usually someplace we completely lack boundaries.

I won’t promise you will love your inbox, but I will tell you it’s possible to release its stranglehold on your life and confidently ignore it for hours (or even days) without it turning into a three-ring circus.

Inbox Hacks & Workflows Video

Here’s a quick summary of what I cover in the Inbox Hacks & Workflows video:

3 Quick Wins to Tame Your Inbox

Unsubscribe! – It only takes a few seconds but if you aren’t regularly opening and reading, it’s time to unsubscribe. They won’t be offended, you’re actually helping their open rates!

2 Minute Rule – If it can be done in under two minutes, do it while you’re processing your inbox.  If it can’t, move the task to your to-do list with a specific time to get it done.

Reduce your notifications. – Set times to check your email and stop letting notifications distract you.  If you do have client emails you need notifications for, tailor your notification settings to only allow those.

Want to go deeper? Tame Your Inbox

Each week I conduct a live training like this during my Business Systems Office Hour. After the training, the rest of the hour is a live Q&A session–and the questions don’t even have to relate to the training! Learn more here.

Tame Your Inbox

Tame Your Inbox

For most of us, the first thing we check when we log into our computers is our email. 

And if you only have one email, I’m shocked.

So whether we’re bouncing from tab to tab or app to app, the first thing we see each day is a long list of people wanting our attention.  Clients have questions, businesses want us to buy things, bills want to be paid.

And it’s all right there staring us in the face before we’ve even gotten that first gulp of coffee down.

And then we have to deal with it. 

We have to delete the sales emails we don’t care about, somehow flag the emails that we can’t answer right this second, but don’t want to forget about, and reply to at least a handful (which just means there will be new emails to deal with before long).  

Before you know it, it’s 45 minutes later and the number of emails in your inbox has barely changed.

And all of those emails left are there to taunt us as unfinished tasks.  Knowing they are there waiting for us makes us avoid our inbox.

But what if you had a system in place that actually allowed you to get to that fabled “inbox zero”?

What if your inbox sorted itself and left you with only a few clicks to get it all taken care of?

It’s possible.

First, use an app that gives you control over more than one inbox at a time.  

I don’t recommend simply forwarding all of your emails to one inbox, but use an app that will allow you to view multiple inboxes either together or separate.  My choice for this is Spark.

Second, set up a reliable filing system for each inbox.  

While the search function in most email apps is robust, a layer of organization is still good for you.  My strategy is to use folders for clients, tools/resources, and people. This allows me to quickly navigate to what I need.  I also recommend a label or folder title “@waiting” so that you can quickly review emails that need a follow-up, but they don’t bog up your inbox when there’s no current action for you to take.

Third, use filters to separate your main types of emails.  

Spark automatically sorts emails into personal, newsletters, and notifications—and I’ll admit that it’s pretty accurate.  All of your human-generated emails go to personal, so you can quickly see which REAL PEOPLE are asking you questions. Automated emails land themselves in notifications – at a quick glance, you’ll see emails from PayPal, etc all in one place.  And lastly, you have newsletters, which is where you’ll find anything you’ve subscribed to.  

If you need to take it a step further, you can create custom rules and filters in most email apps.  If you have notifications coming in that you don’t want to turn off, but don’t need to take action on, you could create a filter or rule that automatically marks them read and files them away in the correct folder.

Fourth, create an email triage plan.  

For me, this is a couple of times a day where I scan my inbox, reply to anything that takes less than 2 minutes and file away everything else.  If it’s something that I will need to take action on later, I forward it to my task manager (Amazing Marvin) and file the email appropriately. This means that unless I need something specific, I can keep my email shut and focus on the actual work at hand.

Bonus Items

Unsubscribe from all the things!  

Look at what emails you actually open instead of just deleting.  We subscribe to so many newsletters just so we can get a free download or resource, but if we’re not opening the emails after that, then receiving them doesn’t serve us or the sender.  Sure, you feel bad about unsubscribing, but you really shouldn’t. It helps their deliverability and open rates if you unsubscribe because you’re no longer interested or opening their emails. 

Sync your calendar.  

Having emails automatically add meetings and events to your calendar reduces the actions you have to take.

Use different email addresses.  

If you have *that much* going on, perhaps consider separate emails for certain things.  For instance, a special email for current clients can help ensure you never miss another important email.  It also makes it easier to give your assistant access when you’re on vacation or out sick. I’m also a huge fan of an admin@ email for all of the tools and platforms you sign up for.  

Final Thoughts

It’s okay to let things linger.  “Inbox zero” isn’t a perfect method.  Having your inbox under control is important, but don’t let perfectionism eat you alive.  It’s okay to leave emails that you need to follow up on, it’s okay to let newsletters sit until a designated reading time. 

In my case, I leave appointment confirmations in the inbox until the appointment is over. This gives me quick access during their call, and a front-of-mind reminder to send a follow-up email.  I also use the “pin” feature in Spark for any emails that are in a “waiting” status (think shipping notifications, ongoing email threads waiting for a reply).  

What’s important is that everything has a system and that the system actually works for you.

Related Reading: The Case for Fewer Apps

Exploring Two Basic Newsletter Types

Exploring Two Basic Newsletter Types

So, first things first, let’s define what I mean by newsletter.  If you’re old enough (ahem), the word likely brings to mind a folded four-page paper newsletter that you got monthly in the mail from say your church, community, or other groups.  It featured announcements, meeting dates, and maybe even a member spotlight. It was how we kept in touch before Facebook groups and Slack revolutionized how we communicate.

And if that’s what you’re thinking of, your first reaction is probably “I don’t have time for creating that much more content!”

Excellent!  Neither do I, so let’s simplify the idea of a newsletter.  All I want you to do is regularly send something to your subscribers checking in with them and reminding them who you are and what you do.  There are two main ways you can do this: a curated content newsletter or an exclusive content newsletter.


Curated Content

  1. Make it personal!  – Don’t just drop a link to your latest blog post and run.  Write 2-3 lines that are from YOU. It doesn’t have to be a novel, but make that personal connection with your subscribers and remind them that there’s a real live person behind your brand.  It can be a blurb about what you’re reading, what’s going on in your life (that’s at least semi-relevant to your niche), or a peek behind the scenes.
  2. Recycle your content.  – Let them know where you’ve been around the web lately or where you’ll be soon.  Link to a recent Facebook post that’s been interactive, a recent guest post you’ve done, or tell them about an interview on a podcast that’s recent or upcoming so they can tune in.
  3. Include a clear Call to Action. – The point of an email list is to get them back to your site to take an action on something.  Share your content, book your service, buy your product. Keep the promotional part of your email to about 10%, but make it clear and don’t give too many CTAs.
  4. Share the spotlight. – Feature a customer or community member.  It serves as both a testimonial for you and spreads the love to your community.  They’ll appreciate being featured, and it boosts your Know<Like<Trust factor all around.

Not every week needs to contain all of these items, but your subscribers will appreciate consistency.  The great thing about this type of newsletter is that you aren’t having to sit down and come up with brand new, extra content.  You’re curating it from things that already exist. Once you have a template going, you can knock this out in 20 minutes easy.


Exclusive Content

Essentially, this type of newsletter is like writing a blog post that only goes to your subscribers.  This can be as simple as a behind the scenes feature or as involved as a free resource that is only available to subscribers.  I like to write these for our lifestyle blog, Big Family Minimalist, as it allows me to share more personal facets of our journey with our subscribers that allows me to really connect with our follows and not have to worry about it being “polished” for a public blog post. Your exclusive content will depend on your business, but it can be a place to get a little vulnerable or something that packs a punch of extra value for your customers.

The exclusive content route is definitely a lot more involved than the curated content version, but the payoffs can be massive when it comes time to pitch them a product or service.  By turning out exclusive content on a weekly basis, you’re training your subscribers to expect great resources from you. If you launch a new course after 2-3 months of sending weekly exclusive content on top of the other content you’re putting out on your blog and other channels, they will click and buy without hesitation because you’ve established both your expertise and your quality of work with them.

That said, I suggest going the exclusive content route only if busting out content is a strength of yours and you know you can commit to the extra work.  If you’re producing 2-3 blog posts, a weekly YouTube video, regular social media content, and then adding on exclusive content for your list, you’ll burn out quickly if you don’t have methods and systems in place to make sure it all gets done.  We’ll talk more about that soon!


Final Thoughts

Sending a consistent and frequent newsletter is important to the health of your list and you can read more about why in this post.  If you think it’s too much work or too complicated, you need to scale back and choose a method that makes it simple. Don’t be afraid to create and use a curated content template.  Anything sent out regularly is better than sending nothing until you’re ready to pitch your new product or service.

5 Reasons You Should Be Sending a Weekly Newsletter

5 Reasons You Should Be Sending a Weekly Newsletter

But I don’t have anything to say.

That’s what clients tell me when I mention that they should be sending out some sort of weekly newsletter.  Yikes.

What they really mean is “I don’t have anything to sell.”  For most of the clients I work with, they have only been using their list to pitch their subscribers a product or service.  Usually, when they come to me it’s because they want help getting people on their list by way of new forms or lead magnets, and sometimes even a welcome sequence.

And then I baffle them by saying “Cool!  So what do your subscribers get after this?”  

I’ve heard every excuse under the sun for why people aren’t sending out a newsletter, and I’m here to tell you that they are all bullshit.

If you have an email list, you need to be sending out a weekly newsletter.  Period. If the term “Newsletter” is throwing you off, check out this post I wrote about WHAT you should be sending.  But for now, I want to focus on the WHY.


Your subscribers expect it from you.

Simply put, your subscribers signed up for this.  They put their name and email in a form and said: “Yes, I want to hear from you.”  So let them hear from you! This right here is the first step in setting up the expectation that you will follow through on what you’ll say you’ll do.  If your newsletter subscription box said they’ll receive regular content, then guess what? Those subscribers are expecting regular content from you.

Oh, and if I had a dollar for every time someone told me “but every time I send, I get so many unsubscribes, and I can’t afford people unsubscribing.”  Uhm, yes, you can. Unsubscribes are part of the natural lifecycle of your list. You WANT people to unsubscribe, so please don’t use that as an excuse not to send regular content.


It keeps your list from going stale. (Spam, open rates, etc)

Lists can go stale just like bread.  I’d rather see a client come in with no list at all than a list of 3000 that they haven’t send to in nine months.  When you let your list go stale, people forget about you. When people forget about you, they aren’t likely to open the next email you finally send out.  When your open rate is low, you get sent to spam more often. And when you start getting sent automatically to spam often enough, you will have a heck of a time digging back out of that hole and reaching people’s inboxes again.  

Prevention is simple, send often!  And if you have a list that’s already stale and this scared you, start sending again sooner rather than later, but take the time to do some list maintenance while you’re at it. (Learn more about that here.)


It adds to your Know<Like<Trust value.

People buy from people. Your weekly newsletter is an opportunity to connect with your audience.  Establish your expertise by providing value each and every week. And don’t forget to make it a two-way conversation by inviting them to reply or interact with you in some way. 

The only way to hurt your brand by sending every week is to use your newsletter to shove your product or service down your subscribers’ throats.  Don’t do that.


It can increase traffic to your site.

The main reason you have a newsletter is so that you can stay in touch with people that you hope will eventually buy your product or service.  They make those purchases by coming back to your website, therefore the most basic goal of any email you send is to get people back to your site. So create CTAs that invite people back to your site.  Don’t send your entire blog post in your subscribers, just send a teaser with a link back to your blog for them to read the rest.

And if you’re following the Exclusive Content newsletter model, give them another reason to click back like an additional resource or a link to a related blog post.


It’s not as difficult or time-consuming as you think.

Seriously, if your reason why not is because you don’t have the time or think it’s difficult–you’re creating excuses out of nowhere.  If you’re really pressed for time, use the Curated Content model. Recycle content from other streams (your blog, your social media, your Facebook group, etc) and stick to a simple template.  You can easily put out your newsletter in 20 minutes each week.

If it feels complicated, scale it down to something that feels simple, even if that means you’re just sending a quick 3-line note and a link to your latest blog post.  Anything is better than nothing and the extra bit of effort will pay off when it’s time to leverage your list for your next product launch.


Final Thoughts

Sending a regular newsletter is the simplest way to keep your email list healthy and engaged.  Properly nurturing your list during the period between welcoming and pitching your next product can have a drastic effect on your conversion rates.  But remember, nurturing means providing resources and connecting with your audience, not hammering them with blatant sales pitches every week.  Provide value and plenty of opportunities for your subscribers to connect with you and I can promise you’ll see better results on your next launch.

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